Good and “More Good”

Tomorrow morning, I will enjoy the luxury of no alarm clock. It’s Saturday. At some sleepy point, I’ll hear one of the happiest wake-up calls in the world—the coffee maker. It will finish spewing and brewing, and my husband will head down the hall to get me a cupful of morning magic.

Yes, you read that right. My husband. Somewhere between that “dig deep and gut it out” New Year’s Day post and the changing of 2016’s leaves, God pulled one of His biggest surprises on me. Most days—moments, even—I can’t really believe it. I’m married.


Some (okay, many) people in my world would add “finally!” to that statement—“She’s married, finally!” But I don’t and won’t, because that implies I’ve been waiting all of my life to arrive at this destination. It suggests that the twenty-plus years of adult living that preceded marriage were just means to this happy end. They weren’t. Marriage isn’t a destination—it’s a new path on a weird but wonderful journey of following God.

I also won’t say, as some have, that God has “rewarded” me, as if I somehow earned a prize. I didn’t, and He hasn’t. And I won’t say that I always knew God would come through for me and give me what I really wanted. That’s bad theology—and besides that, it’s not true. I don’t for a minute think that I deserved to get married because I did something good (sorry, Captain and Maria) or that this had to happen for God to be faithful or that I have finally achieved a major goal of adult life.

I will simply say that God is good, all the time, and sometimes His goodness looks “more good” to us than at other times. Sometimes it feels “more good.” While I may find myself in a season where His goodness looks and feels “more good” than it has for a number of years, He hasn’t changed and His actions toward me haven’t changed. He’s always been bestowing His goodness on me—whether I’ve seen it or felt it in the ways I wanted to or not.

Is my husband a good gift? I can’t begin to tell you how good he is. Is marriage a blessed state? Indeed—though I am well aware that it won’t always feel that way. 🙂 But my single life was also a good gift from a loving Father. I don’t want to cheapen any of God’s gifts by comparing them.

Tomorrow morning my cup of coffee may taste “more good” to me because of the one who brings it to me. But the One who brought “the one” to me has been good all along. Make no mistake.


10 responses to “Good and “More Good””

  1. Thank you for sharing these truths and teachings about God’s plan.

    1. Thanks, Ann. It was great to see you. 🙂

  2. Thanks for such a delightful and biblical article. Very much appreciated. May you both enjoy the blessings with which God has already blessed you as per Eph 1 and give you many more. C.Brown

    On Fri, Oct 14, 2016 at 9:54 AM, for LOVE of the WORD wrote:

    > wendywidder posted: “Tomorrow morning, I will enjoy the luxury of no alarm > clock. It’s Saturday. At some sleepy point, I’ll hear one of the happiest > wake-up calls in the world—the coffee maker. When it’s done spewing and > brewing, my husband will head down the hall to get me a” >

  3. Wow! Congratulation! I am really happy to hear that! God is good!

    1. Thanks, Nancy! It’s been quite a ride. 🙂

  4. Not only am I so happy for you Wendy, but I am encouraged and blessed by your most biblical reminder that God’s providence for His children is always good whether we recognize it as such or not! My prayer is that I would appreciate His wisdom for my life and be content in whatever he sees fit to give me at any given moment……Enjoy your new husband and the opportunities to glorify God together!😍

  5. Our church (Traders Point Christian Church in Whitestown, Indiana) is trying to get 100 copies of your book, Living Whole Without a Better Half. We have a 6 week group for singles in January and was wondering if you’re aware of why the book is difficult to get in large quantities. Should we call the publisher? Any suggestions would be helpful

    1. Hi Diana!
      I would call the publisher directly. That’s probably the easiest way to get such a large quantity. They might even be willing to work out a discount. 🙂 You can reach customer service at Kregel Publications at (616) 451-4775, x218 or at (800) 733-2607. Or you could email them at

      Hope you can get what you need! 🙂

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